There comes a time in our lives when we realize that the person or situation we have been trying so hard to work with and create a future with will just not work out. It suddenly dawns on us how unhappy we feel and how uncertain we are about letting go and moving on. 

False hope and expectations can play a dangerous role in these scenarios. Certain events with other people can leave us hurt and in pain for long periods of time, especially if there were things left unsaid. The idea of missing out on the opportunity to say something or get closure is agonizing and sometimes we tend to hold on to the hope of reunion with whomever we were involved with just to get the peace or justice we have been waiting for. 

When we are faced with situations like these, it’s important for us to take a step back and acknowledge that our emotions are valid, the situation is hurtful, and that our lives are going to change if we keep pursuing or move on from whatever is causing this dilemma for us. Self-honesty is what needs to be the priority here when outlining the facts of the situation and the reality of its impacts on us, in a previous blog, we talked about how our experiences of childhood shape our adulthood and how limiting beliefs hold us back from exuding our full potential. This heavily connects to how we viewed a certain event and what ‘truth’ we chose to apply to that event.  

So what happens after we acknowledge the “truth” and decide that letting go is what will be the best for us?

As we mentioned earlier, pinpointing the exact emotions about the situation is what will help you understand why you can’t seem to let go in the first place. Usually, one of the first emotions that my clients can easily identify is anger. We all get angry, lash out, and sometimes say or do things out of character. It is an emotion that exists within us all, yet is very antagonized.

Anger is not a separate emotion and it’s not disconnected from the other parts of ourselves. In fact, it coexists with all the other emotions and shows you what exactly hurts within so you can heal that part of yourself. If you are angry because someone made a negative comment about your looks then that means there is a part of you that believes in what they said. No matter how confident you think you are, the anger that came after this comment is the insecurity of not thinking you are good-looking enough. Or if your partner becomes passive-aggressive and jealous every time they see you with someone else then there is a very good chance that the anger they are displaying is their inner child feeling scared of abandonment. Still not an excuse to project this onto you but it always helps to see and understand where certain behaviors in us and others come from.

Understanding this concept allows for a great relief in one’s sense of rationality and it opens doors to explore the other underlying emotions like sadness, guilt, and fear. Being 100% honest with yourself about uncomfortable situations shows you the parts that need a little more attention and love, often the parts we neglect within us resort to attracting situations that leave us wounded and confused about either letting go or keeping pursuing them.

Don’t let this part of you scare you away, approach it with love and you will be amazed at the things it shows you. Own your power today and allow yourself to be guided.

Published By: Zaina Armoush